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January 2007 |
 Someone has just broken a promise to you, and in your view, the consequences could be dire. Your career could be on the line, all because this person broke his promise. The more you think about it the angrier you get. You decide you need to say something to the promise-breaker for what he has done. Before you open your mouth, take a step back and realize that you are angry, possibly very angry. While anger is a normal and often positive emotion (it can protect us), take some time to first recognize your anger. Then think about it as your own subjective experience. Someone else in your situation, for instance, might just shrug their shoulders and walk away. According to Redford Williams of Duke University, the author of Anger Kills, there are many things you can do to manage your anger. Here are some of his suggestions: • Log your anger. Keep track of what makes you go off, so it will be easier for you to recognize the emotion. Learn what makes you angry so that you can develop strategies for containing and channeling it when it occurs. • When you become angry with someone, try to see the situation from his or her point of view. Employing empathy in this way can defuse your anger. Acknowledging there is another point of view and that we all make mistakes can be a powerful reminder to calm down. • When all else fails, sometimes laughter is the best antidote to anger. Try to see yourself as you must appear. Your face is red and you are behaving irrationally. Try to lighten up a little. • Try a relaxation technique like deep breathing. Remind yourself that a lot of the things that people become angry over are really not worth devoting the time and the energy an outburst requires. • Try to improve your listening skills. Miscommunication is often the culprit in situations that inspire anger. Try to hear what the other person is saying and try to respond to their point of view. • Be assertive not aggressive. That means you need to let others know what your boundaries are. Try not to express yourself when you are overwhelmed with anger. It’s likely you won’t do a very good job. • Try to live every day as if it is your last on Earth. Although it might sound like a cliché, this will help you keep or regain perspective. • Be forgiving. Try letting go of past hurts and resentments. This is a difficult thing to do, but the reward is your own peace of mind and happiness. From singing toothbrushes to slimming cameras, check out the latest technology:  Toothtunes encourages children and adults alike to brush properly. A
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